My husband and I have been married for 7 years - 3 children together and I feel like it might be time to separate.
I have been diagnosed with anxiety and depression - which to be honest has really surprised me where it's come from as I am normally a very relaxed person. My anxiety has come to the point where some days I can't even hold a fork because of the shaking and struggle to hold a conversation. Upon further talks with a psychologist I feel that the anxiety is being caused by my husband. He is very moody and irrational, and it's very hard to predict how he is going to walk through the door at the end of the day. He's snappy towards the children and mostly just sits there watching things in his phone.
He's not all bad, he does help with the kids and basic housework - but his unpredictability with moods is really becoming worse to the point that I'm constantly thinking of ways that I can prevent a potential argument before it even happens - which usually ends up happening anyway because no matter what I do, it's wrong or he thinks that if I do something nice for him that I'll use it against him as an upper hand in an argument - which I don't do anyway. I don't deal well with conflict or arguments as I grew up in a home that only existed of that and I don't want the same for my children.
I have constantly tried to communicate this with him - but he says it's all in my imagination and it's me with the issue, which I honestly believed until recently when he's been unable to hide his unpredictability as much around others and I'm being asked if I'm okay by friends because they are noticing his behaviour.
I really don't know what to do. I'm scared to leave because I don't want to take the kids out of their home - but I'm becoming more and more depressed every day.